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Saturday, March 1, 2014

March 1, 2014

 Registration for AP Exams Begins on Monday, March 3

Students interested in taking AP exams must register for them in the Guidance Office.  Registration begins on Monday, March 3rd and concludes on March 24th. Scheduled during the first two weeks of May, these three-hour exams are offered in a variety of subject areas.  The registration fee is $20 (cash or checks made payable to EO Smith) per exam, with the balance of $69 paid on the day of each exam.  For more information go to AP Central.


ECSU Student Government  Organizes Event for Prospective Students

On Wednesday March 12th from 2-4pm in the Betty Tipton Room in the ECSU Student Center, the Student Government Association and the Academic Services Center are cosponsoring a Majors Fair. The purpose of the Majors Fair is to give new and potential students information about any of the majors in which a student might be interested.
 The ECSU Student Government would like to extend an invitation to EOS students to attend this event. This event will be open to all students who are either interested in Eastern Connecticut State University or those who are curious about the various majors that colleges can offer. A representative from admissions, the academic services center and the center for career and internships will also be present at this event.
 If you have any questions, contact Emily McDonald at sgsIssues@easternct.edu.

Panther Tutors Available

 Two UConn students in the teacher certification program are available to provide tutoring in a wide range of classes.  They are available most days during school hours and are currently working with EOS students in one-on-one and small group settings.  tutoring takes place in the Guidance Office.  For more information, contact your counselor.

National College Fair Dates

The National College Fair, a program offered by the National Association for College Admissions Counselors, is "on tour" and will be in Springfield on March 30/31 and Hartford on April 3/4.  Several colleges will be represented at booths.  In addition, workshops will be offered.  For more information, click here.


What Kids Wished Parents Knew About Them

 It's an annual exercise that students perform in a certain set of English 10 classes that coincides with their reading of Catcher In the Rye.  Students are asked to list what they wished parents knew about them.  Below is what they reported.
Sometimes, when I get really mad, my brain looks for numbers around me and starts doing math problems with said numbers.
I love coming up with ideas, but I’m too lazy to write them down.

I want to be more socially involved; I’m just not very confident.

Technology has made us a lot lazier than we used to be.
We’re always close to at least one person who we tell everything to, if not two or three.

We may have a lot of “friends” on social networks, but not all of us  have a lot of true friends.
We’re not as quiet around our friends as around our parents.

Believe it or not, half the time we do get what you’re talking about. We do understand, and you can talk to us about things that are important.
We don’t really think you’re that old. We just like to tease you for complaining.

You may remember, but yes; that one crack in the wall really is more interesting when it’s time to study.

Half of us don’t care about whatever happens to be cool.  The other half are pretending for the sake of conforming.
 It’s harder to hear advice from loved ones.

A lot of things that happen are kept quiet.
Physical activity helps your brain and you can focus better.

When teachers ask for the one way we learn best, I never know what to say. A mix of everything is most useful.
There really are some people in this school that I do not want to get to know.

Teens go to each others’ houses to have fun by causing trouble/mischief.
Teens take too may serious risks and don’t tell anyone.

What you put into this time affects your future.
You get your first true glimpse of the real world and it’s either exciting or terrifying.

You learn to become independent.
Adults and especially educators classify children as one thing, and think they’re all the same, when really each teenager is different in their own way.

Teachers give too much work to do in one night.
School holds us back. Not all classes can possibly be offered to appeal to every teenager. Independent studies must be offered.

 The act of being watched/monitored kills our creativity. The fact that we must complete a task knowing it will be graded and critiqued brings teenagers down.
Testing does not work for every teenager. It proves we can cram and memorize days before the test.

We like to explore and choose options.

They don’t know how to handle situation in school; they always think they have the right solution.
They don’t realize that we like to relax so much because school is draining.

They don’t realize we should focus more on the present than concerning past grades or future problems.
A lot of the time, we do actually know what we want and what’s best for us, even if our parents don’t think we do.

Standing out too much can be the hardest thing for us to do, which is why we don’t always do the right thing.
Sometimes our parents are really embarrassing.

We want to feel like we are unique and different, but we don’t want to stand out from the crowd.
Athletes do stick together. No matter what adults think, there are always cliques in schools. Most, but not all, people choose their friends so that it benefits them. They choose who they think will make them seem more popular.

Teenagers stick up for each other.  Even if you don’t even know each other, it is your moral responsibility to help that person.
It sucks if people think the book character you relate to is crazy.

We all care about each other (for the most part) because we are all going through the same B.S.
You can’t summarize us with a list.

We pretend not to like some of the books we read.
Our parents don’t realize how much we use Netflix.

We’re all afraid to use our imaginations and play once in a while.
All teenagers at one point have said “Let’s start a band!”

Sometimes we act like we don’t care, but we do; we really do care and love you unconditionally.
Even though we act like it doesn’t bother us if you are there for the meet, game, or school event, it makes us upset that you aren’t there.

Sometimes grades don’t show how hard we are trying in that class.
Our idea of dinner when we are alone is cereal, so we love it when you cook for us.

Some people don’t know the exact route they want to go after high school.
We want to get good grades to go to a good college because that is how the world is set up.

We like sports and appreciate when adults do too; especially teachers, because usually the ones that played sports in high school do not swamp you every night. They understand the whole student/athlete thing more.
We want to be able to fail and know it won’t affect us negatively too much and that we can learn from it.

We like to laugh.
We like doing new things.

While teens are impulsive, they are impulsive in familiar situations, while in strange ones, they take the time to think.
No group of teens is generic enough to be able to write a “Five Things Parents Don’t Know About Teens” list.

Teens hate slow-moving conversations/discussions.
We don’t like to say that our parents are right. Even if they give us good advice, we will never admit it’s true.

We know more than parents think we do. Going to high school every day teaches us about things you hoped we didn’t know.
We need more guidance than you would think; a lot of the time teens just don’t like to look clueless.

Sometimes teens do or say things that aren’t thought through; there isn’t always a deeper meaning or secret motivation.
A million requests with little or no authority is not equal to one with demand and sternness.

Your telling me to do my homework does not motivate me to do it; it just makes me feel like you think I don’t care about my education.
You don’t have to tell me to be polite when I go over to a friend’s house.

My motivation to get good grades is inspired by you, not forced by you.
Don’t buy me socks for my birthday or Christmas; it should be a regular occurrence.

Most of the time, there’s nothing wrong; that’s just my face.
For parents, making jokes about mental illness or self-harm to make yourself seem like you’re helping your child to “ease tension” or whatever, doesn’t help. It’s offensive and rude so parents shouldn’t do it, and they don’t know that laughing at problems doesn’t make them go away.

Teens hate society.
Introverted doesn’t equal shy.

Extroverted is not necessarily a good thing.
I’m more articulate inside my head.

I want to put more effort into it and I think I could, but it’s so hard to emotionally motivate myself.
I would learn better if my learning didn’t constantly have to involve other people.

I can handle things by myself, I just need the tools to do so.
I’m stressed out and sometimes this means I just have to be alone for an hour or so.

I’m more mature than you think; there’s just a disconnect between my brain and my mouth.
I don’t necessarily want a hug when I’m crying.

Just because a parent does the bare minimum to be a parent doesn’t mean I’m grateful.
You don’t deserve respect just because you are a parent—any idiot can be a parent.

Society and its mores change—get over it.
You are a sheep, just like anyone else. You just do things the way that you do because your parents told you that that’s what’s normal.

Telling me things that contradict actual fads just to make me feel better just makes me feel worse.
Teens don’t do an “art” activity for the love of it, but for the hatred of missing it.

Teens do as well in school based on how high their parents’ expectations are.
Athletes truly think sports  are more important than school.

We are always “exploring” new opportunities with our lives even if you don’t think so.
We sometimes don’t like to say everything that happened to us in detail.

We sometimes get tired and are not afraid to show it.
Your child looks up to you for protection and guidance in the world.

We think working for free is not right.
9:30PM is an impossible time to fall asleep.

Most of our actions are an escape from confusion; it gives us a purpose.
We feel betrayed when you take away privileges.

Sometimes we tell the truth right away, but still get punished for whatever we did; honesty should matter more.
It sucks to know there is more work for us when we go home.

We work hard to impress more people than we should.
We don’t always believe in a brighter future. We only just hope for the best.

When anyone is upset with us, it hurts more than anything else.
The best feeling in the world is when older people in our lives are proud of us, even though we sometimes don’s show it.

Teens admit to things we didn’t do to avoid arguments.
Sometimes, we just like to be left alone.

Just because we always want to be with our friends on the weekend doesn’t mean we don’t like to spend time with you.
Adults think that we are addicted to Internet and social media; we just do it for fun.

Adults think that we are lazy and do what we want; we don’t.
Adults think that everything is so easy for us.

Adults think music now-a-days doesn’t make any sense but you have to listen to understand.
No matter how big a smile we have on our faces, there is a constant worry or anxiety we have just beneath it.

The truth is, you’ll never really know must of the things about your teenager. It might be due to their insecurities or fear of losing a certain reputation or amount of respect. But NEVER expect to know everything about someone—especially not your teen.
Teens try to break the rules to see the anger in adults as a result.

Teens try to find an answer to their emotions by occupying their minds with sports or school or drugs.
Teens feel every emotion at once, all the time.

We love to express ourselves, but not in a structured way.
We listen to music for more to block people out.

Don’t ask us to do chores; we’ll do it eventually without being asked.
You aren’t the only one who’s scared to strive.

Don’t take things from me.
When we hang out with our friends, or after school, it doesn’t mean we are doing bad things.

Just because we are younger doesn’t mean our relationships are less important or not as real as yours.
Sneaky tricks for being destructive.

We’re clumsy – both mentally and physically.
We think feeling alone is a terrible feeling.

We like to say things we don’t really mean.
Other peoples’ feelings affect us.

We easily get obsessed with things.
We are very curious about trying new things.

We like feeling we’re in charge, that we’re the boss.
We are really good liars; we know how to manipulate people.

We have more than one side to our personality.
We’re always looking for food even if we’re not hungry.

It is easier for teens to be popular and have lots of friends than a few good ones.
Nothing you tell teens is a secret.

Teens get pissed because we’re treated like children.
We don’t want the world, we’re just striving for the best.

It’s not that we still want to be a child and do childish things—doing the childish things just remind us of when everything was easy and fun with no stress.
We let the small things bother us too much for too long.

We have a large capacity for what we are about, both in expertise and memory.
Some of us are more trustworthy than we are treated.

We understand the consequences of doing bad things.
We deserve as much respect as adults want us to give them.

We can take care of ourselves and we will but we would rather stay babied longer.
We trust you as much as you trust us.

We are responsible and deserve to be trusted.
I get emotional a lot but never show it, because telling adults makes it worse.

I like being around people.
I over think stuff sometime.

 I write songs but I never play them in front of people.
I still enjoy listening to my parents tell stories of when they were young.

We enjoy being out in the fresh air.
We like to read, but we like being lazy even more.

Sports seem to be more like a way to relieve stress/depression.
We can get addicted to things way too fast.

How annoying it is when adults complain about everything.
It annoys me when they ask what’s wrong and when I go away they follow.

It is annoying when they put too many restrictions on me.
There are some things I want to do but I don’t have the energy to do.

I’m always angry at something.
I have to know what everyone else in the world is doing.

We will eventually clean our room or do the chores.
Your child has the sense of something bigger than himself, and strives for something other than you might expect.

Your child wants to please you and wants to see you happy.
Your child is still fragile and needs to be loved and cared for, but not overprotected.

Your child craves to be independent and wants to live and be reckless, but sometimes you need to help them distinguish when that is OK.
A vast majority of teens are insecure in some ways, and often make up for it by mimicking a lifestyle they believe will make them appealing.

We resent the fact that we are often given adult responsibilities, but only the privileges of a child.
We hate that we will never find victory in an argument with an adult.

We crave independence and feel weak when we must rely on adults for things we are not yet able to do ourselves.
It’s fun to hide things from our parents.

We can make up an excuse for almost anything.
We know that it is possible to work harder—we just don’t want to.

We don’t like being lectured about your experiences; we want to experience things for ourselves.
We always have more homework if you ask us to do chores.

We insult our parents, and complain about them almost daily, but when anyone else insults our parents, we suddenly become defensive.
Teens really want to talk about their day, but don’t want to really talk at all – it’s complicated.

Teens are walking the fine line of depression more often than not.
We want to be able to openly talk to you about various issues without feeling awkward or nervous.

We feel so conflicted between wanting to give up and needing to continue.
We aren’t just exhausted physically and mentally, but emotionally, too.

Teens don’t necessarily hate learning. When they say they hate school, they don’t mean the learning part. They mean the part that is so structured they can’t pursue interests.
We understand adults more than they think, and more than they understand us. We know why you do the things you do, but you can’t say the same about us.

Many adults can’t remember the full feeling of not wanting to grow up. They say that they understand and that it will happen no matter how hard you try not to, but they really don’t
Music is my life. I don’t think I could make it through the school day without being able to listen to my iPod at least once.

My room is a mess most of the time because with school and the chores you expect me to do at home, I don’t have any time to do it.
I do not get to see my friends during school—we actually have to learn—so weekend sleepovers are needed.

We love to feel love. Even though we push away doting parents and personal questions, it makes us feel needed and wanted when someone cares.
Mom is and will always be our security blanket.

We hate being a disappointment. We all try to play off bad grades on tests or quizzes, but failing to fulfill your expectations secretly crushes us.
Teenagers are capable of embracing ambiguity. There are a lot of classes that cater to a simplistic view or a complex problem because people thing teens can’t see gray areas, that all their perceptions are black and white. But our views are actually really nuanced.

We are dramatic. Everything is bigger when you’re a teenager, everything means more. We love dramatic gestures, we want to do big stuff, think big ideas. We’re wild, big people on the inside. There’s so much energy everywhere and until the very worst circumstances, a teen’s spirit is really and truly indestructible.  We have so few fears because we believe that the end isn’t a possibility.

Teens are usually bad at describing feelings. Emotional conflict happens often inside teens. They might be happy, then sad. However, expressing feelings in terms of describing them is difficult.   Teens are more capable of handling and accepting things that seem to defy all rules.

Teens are looking for a higher plane (of knowledge maybe, but more of being) . I’m not saying teens want to be gods, but teens don’t want to stay in the same mundane conditions that they are in. They want challenges.
Teens don’t know their limits. We are constantly wanting to do better (mostly) Teens don’t think they have a limit. Sometimes they try too hard (i.e. McCandless).

Teens are stubborn—everyone.  Once they believe something, they don’t budge. Sometimes they see the hypocrisy of their parents, then they refuse to listen. In the chaos of change, they need to have stable ideals that won’t change.
It’s not easy making friends as the ‘new’ kid. School already has its own friend circles. There are 2 ways to get in a group: 1)Find a “target” group of friends and assimilate yourself to match them and hope they pick you up. 2)Be yourself, and find out if there are any groups out there for you that wouldn’t mind you joining.

Your child knows quite a bit. We not only have book smarts, but also street smarts, something you need to get around.
Teens are often sad; I’m not sure if it’s the lack of sleep, or what, but even the littlest thing can be a huge disappointment. Also they are sometimes sad for no reason, stressed, or nervous without having any real reason. They will try to hide it—often the people who laugh the most are the saddest—but deep down there is a twist in their heart that isn’t easily worked out.

In spite of how they may behave, your children still love you, a lot, even when they are frustrated with you; when they argue with you and act angry and resentful.  Indeed, those are the times they care about you the most—it is the love for you that they feel that is fuelling their unhappiness. Otherwise, they simply wouldn’t regard you enough to get upset with you.
Your children understand a lot – more than it seems they do. They see and recognize things outside of themselves but don’t want to show that they do, because they are scared of admitting what they know, of how that will make them seem.  They don’t always know what to do with what they know, and this makes them feel weak, leaving them in a flux of adolescent confusion they have yet to escape from.

Your child, in spite of everything, constantly struggles with the undeniable and inescapable fact that life is hard. They are only just beginning to learn this, and are constantly fighting inwardly to reach the point at which they not only recognize this fact but accept it.  It is from this point that they can proceed into a simpler, straighter, better existence, and it is at this point that many of them are having trouble reaching.

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